Couples Counseling

Couples Counseling and Marriage & Family Therapy

My specialty is couples counseling addressing communication problems, mistrust, infidelity and rekindling mutual respect, love and intimacy. I will support you to make the changes in your life that might be challenging but essential for you to start living fully again. Through couples counseling I seek to invigorate hope and help you access new skills to bring you the happiness that you deserve.

Prior to coming to the United States I worked as a Psychologist in New Zealand providing couples counseling and counseling families. Since 2000 I have worked as a professor at San Diego State University. I am a Marriage & Family Therapist, Professor, and Director of Marriage & Family Therapy at San Diego State University. I have helped hundreds in couples counseling get through tough times, gain understanding and empathy for one another, and re-experience joy.

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I am convinced of the power of good couples counseling. My six co-authored textbooks published in multiple languages speak to the cutting-edge counseling and mediation theory and practice applied in my therapy work. I’m confident that in our therapeutic partnership you will get through your suffering and build a pathway to well-being and happiness.

I believe that everyone is doing the best they can under difficult circumstances. Together we collaborate to find ways to improve life circumstances, bring ease and peace to your life, and increase daily contentment in your primary relationships. By the time you reach out for help, it is likely you have already tried a number of ways to improve what troubles you. Together in couples counseling we look at what you have already tried, bring new perspective, gather resources, and start you on your way to making positive changes in your relational life.

I am non-judgmental, supportive and I will challenge you too. You should have a sense of whether your concerns can be addressed by me right at the beginning of couples therapy. Trust is essential in order to take the courageous steps that you will need and will want to take. I honor your time and resources. It is essential to experience hope, build trust and expect growth in the first session.

My strength is making a therapeutic connection in couples therapy with you to make the changes in your life that are scary but essential for you to increase wellbeing. I see the person as separate from the problem. In this way, I am not blaming, rather wanting to look at what gets in your way of having peace and contentment in your relational life.